We go through several types of friendships during our lifetimes. And we realize which friends are keepers and which, frankly, you just shouldn’t have let into your life.
Here are a few “kinds” of friends that make the top of our wish list.
A friend you can “let go” with
It’s no secret. Life is hard. There are plenty of times when we might feel the need to put up a front and pretend to be more mature, more responsible, more grown up than we really are. Simply, it’s an exhausting process. Cue the friend you can just let go with and be your silly self – no fronts or pretensions. This might mean spending an evening goofing off, or it sharing secrets without fear of being judged.
Someone who you can sit in silence with
You know that “uncomfortable silence”? Throw all those thoughts out of the window with this friend.No problem about spilling your rambling thoughts with them.No need to catch yourself thinking of the next thing to say, or about not staying in the moment, just to avoid that painful silence. We all need a friend with whom silence exists, but the discomfort does not.
A furry friend
An animal friend is a great friend to have. Whether it’s a kitty to feed every morning or a dog to take out on walks, it’s been proven that pets have a positive effect on our physical and mental health. According to WebMD, “Pets help lower blood pressure and lessen anxiety. They boost our immunity. They can even help you get dates.”
We all need a small person in our lives to count as a friend. Toddlers and preschoolers open our eyes to how beautiful the world really is. They are not cynical, they aren’t jaded. They are innocent, naïve and blissful. A child friend will force you to stop and smell (and pick) the flowers. They will help you remember that there is good all around us. If they avoids having a meltdown while with you, the experience of hanging out with a child could be very relaxing and leave you refreshed.
A dancing partner
You may not actually want to enroll in ballroom or tango classes, and your dancing partner certainly doesn’t need to be of the opposite sex. A dancing partner is a crucial type of friend to call on when you feel the need to get out there and get your groove on. Maybe it’s a seedy club, maybe it’s a rock concert or maybe it is a belly dancing class. Dancing makes us feel so good and a friend we can go dancing with makes us feel great.
A friend who inspires you
It can be handy to have a friend who simply has it together. Whether it’s their awesome career or general joie de vivre, hanging out with downers is out and being in the company of keeners is in. While you might, at times, feel a tad jealous of the friend whose life is going in the direction you are almost desperate to steer yours in, it can be a huge benefit, just having them around. They will inspire you to keep pushing yourself to be the best you can be.