I had just finished my third story of the day when the phone rang. It was my daughter’s school — never a good sign. This time, she threw up and wanted to go home. So I put my laptop on sleep and headed over to get her. But with a couple more stories to tackle today, how am I to balance that with taking her temperature, giving her medicine, making her soup, making sure she eats her soup, making sure she drinks her juice, then get her to go up to her room and rest? How do I ensure that I get my daughter on the road to recovery while I still have a deadline to make?
I suppose things could be worse — a lot worse, really. I could be a working mom who doesn’t have the good fortune to work from home. One who would have to dole out various duties to co-workers just so I can jet out of the office and then commute 40 minutes to get back home. But, hey, at least it’s not rush hour.
Anyways, as I sit downstairs while my daughter supposedly rests upstairs (though I’m pretty sure I hear the TV on), there’s this overwhelming feeling of guilt surging through me. One, because I really wanted the day to myself, so I could finish my work at a decent pace and reward myself with a peaceful viewing of last night’s finale of The Good Wife. (Was it good? I won’t know until tomorrow. Sigh.) Terrible, right? I wish that my daughter hadn’t been sick at school and wasn’t with me now? I know. I’m a jerk. And two, since she is here, all I want to do is lie down beside her and play with her hair until she falls asleep. Then pass out myself. Screw work! But things need to be done. No rest for the wicked!
Victoria Beckham feels the same way. Sure, it’s on a much grander scale but once you break it down, she’s just a working mom who has a tough time balancing work and home life because doing it all makes her feel “constantly guilty.”
On being a working mom, Beckham told the audience at the Vogue Festival (via Radar Online), “I think you feel so torn, don’t you? But I’ve got great people who handle my schedule and everything does revolve around the children. So, if there’s a parents’ night or an Easter bonnet parade or a nativity play, whatever it might be, then I plan everything around that so I can always be there.” At least she’s got people who handle her schedule. But no matter how busy things get, with her fashion line, or her husband, or their four kids, she always makes the children her priority.
“I’m up early in the morning doing spelling tests and maths quizzes before the school run, then up late with a baby and a 14-year-old who refuses to go to bed, Brooklyn.”
OK, we get it. Beckham’s a spicy super-mom who can do it all. To be honest, though, there are some celebrity moms who pretend they’ve got their poop together when really they have a staff full of nannies and assistants who take a significant load off their bony shoulders. But Victoria and husband David really do seem like hands-on parents who could teach a course on how to balance family and jobs with fame because there are many out there who could learn a thing or two from the Beckhams. I’m not saying they don’t have help; I just don’t think they rely on it all of the time.
But back to the guilt. It’s something that exists in all moms. It starts almost immediately after having a kid and it’s why mothers are guilty (sorry) of putting themselves last. We go grocery shopping and we think about what everyone else would rather eat and not worrying about ourselves. We go to the mall and end up getting clothes for the kids and not the grown-ups. We go out for a girls’ night but we tend to think about what may or may not be happening at home. It’s just human nature, mommy human nature. I just wonder if those feelings of guilt will ever go away. For now, though, I have to go. My daughter needs me.
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