Everyone wants to see Britney happy, right? The girl’s been through the wringer with more than her fair share of headlines, haircuts and criticism since she was 16. Now, at 31, it seems like all she wants is a shot at normalcy.
After her breakup with fiancé and manager, Jason Trawick in January, Britney was spotted “running errands” with new beau, David Lucado (27), mid-February.
Now, you may be asking yourself, who is this David Lucado? And that’s exactly the point. According to reports, Lucado’s completely normal, works at a law firm (in “field research”) and has no interest in the Hollywood scene. In fact, Life & Style reported he even deleted his Facebook profile to avoid any unwanted attention.
Aside from the fact that a “normal guy” is a nice change of pace from Brit’s ex-primates (not you JT), it must be addressed: did she move on too fast? Brit waited less than a month since her break up with Trawick (whom she was with since May 2010) and jumped right into another relationship.
While it’s true everybody copes with their feelings differently, it’s tough to disregard the possibility that Lucado is being used as a rebound—a temporary partner to distract Brit from experiencing the full extent of her post-breakup pain.
The only way one should condone or consider a rebound pact is if both partners are fully aware that this is not an all-in relationship, but more of a friends-with-benefits-and-we’re-both-aware-we’re-being-used ordeal. That way, nobody gets hurt in the end, and the rebound cycle ends then and there.
Though there’s no definitive time length one must wait to date again—Sex and the City claims, “It takes half the amount of time you dated to get over them” while Gossip Girl suggests “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.”—it’s important to consult a quick checklist before getting serious again.
1. You have let go and feel absolutely no resentment towards your ex.
2. You’re dating because you want to meet someone you can build a happy future with. Not someone who can pay the bills or make your ex jealous.
3. You’ve regained your sense of self and have become confident enough to re-enter the unpredictable world of dating.