Cameron Diaz has been promoting The Body Book hard, and has opined about everything from aging naturally and wanting women to stop being so hard on themselves and other women, to grooming, bad eating habits and adult acne. She’s on the cover of Self magazine’s February issue and the actress has found a new topic to tackle: “chauvinism and misogyny in the media.” Diaz believes single women are portrayed horribly, as if there is something wrong with them.
“If a relationship fails, it’s because the woman couldn’t hold on to her man, not that the man cheated,” she said. “It’s terrifying for a woman to get out of a relationship, because it’s always going to be her fault.”
She added: “I get that a lot, being a single woman. The reports are always saying that I’m ‘acting inappropriately’ toward men. I don’t at all harp on that s***, but I clock it. I notice it. And then I let it go because there is nothing I can do about it.”
Sadly, her statement is dead-on. Cele|bitchy points out how things ended for Cam and Justin Timberlake. She was portrayed as this crazy person that couldn’t get him to propose and then got all jealous once he started up with his now-wife Jessica Biel. It was always about Cam not being able to hang on to him, not that JT was a bad boyfriend. History repeated itself with Biel, but she was always the put-upon girlfriend, the one he cheated on constantly — yet she kept taking him back. Again, all the talk was about Jessica and how she was a pathetic doormat, not that Justin was a jerky d-bag.
The media’s view of single women is very black and white. They are either depicted as independent super-chicks who can do whatever they want, whenever they want, without anyone’s help. But they are also portrayed as pathetic losers who can’t hold on to a man.
Are there some single ladies out there who are desperate for a companion and would do anything for him to put a ring on it? Sure. But not all women all built like that. Being single doesn’t necessarily equal lonely, bitter cat lady. Some truly are happy with themselves, just want to have fun and are focused on other aspects of their life, be it her career, health and well-being, friendships, family, sex life, maybe even motherhood.
It’s sad that single women are portrayed as failures when they are often successful. Just because they aren’t hanging on a man’s arm shouldn’t make them pariahs or seem like any less of a women. On the contrary, women who do it on their own — be it single women, single mothers, whatever — are pretty awesome. It’s a shame that they are considered otherwise.