If you’re looking for a dude with confidence and self-esteem you might want to head to your nearest library, grocery store, fishing hole, or anywhere you meet real live people, and not Tinder.
A new study that set out to examine women’s feelings on objectification and self esteem, administering an online questionnaire to 1,000+ women and 200+ men around the age of 20, found that male Tinder users tended to have lower levels of self-esteem when compared with men who hadn’t picked up the swiping habit. Not that the guys were alone in their negative Tinder-related perceptions.
“Being actively involved with Tinder, regardless of the users’ gender, was associated with body dissatisfaction, body shame, body monitoring, internalization of societal expectations of beauty, comparing oneself physically to others and reliance on media for information on appearance and attractiveness,” says Jessica Strubel, an assistant professor of merchandising and digital retailing at the University of North Texas and a co-author of the study.
As for the revealing stats about men’s self-esteem, researchers point out that this isn’t necessarily a causational relationship, but rather correlational—meaning it may not be Tinder leading to the low self-esteem, but rather low-self esteem leading to Tinder.
Still, it does make you wonder…
One theory as to why men seem to be so hard hit by the app is that they wind up feeling more rejection. “Men have been found to ‘right swipe’ 46 per cent of their matches compared to women, who do so only 14 per cent of the time,” the study reads, indicating that men are opening themselves up to rejection more than three times as often as women.
More rejection, more hits to the ego—makes sense.
So, if you’re looking for love, maybe Tinder isn’t the best spot. But you know what? There are so many other apps to be tried. Check out these 10 and get downloading. Or, in case those also damage the ego, start frequenting the local haunts, like Starbucks, or a pumpkin patch. Whatever feels right.