The focus of Mother’s Day is often on the kids – the breakfast concoction they’ve whipped up, the works of art they’ve crafted and the outpouring of love for mom that isn’t always displayed so vocally in day-to-day life. And don’t get us wrong – our beaming mom hearts melt at these gestures each and every time.
That being said, we’ve all got a few ideas in mind of how we’d actually want to spoil ourselves if we had the chance. And while it might not be practical to spend money (or time) on a relaxing spa day, a luxurious vacation or an extravagant gift, there are still many little things we can do to feel special. This Mother’s Day weekend, give some of these simple ideas a try without worrying about breaking the bank.
1. TAKE AN EXTRA LONG SHOWER
People without kids don’t realize how much of a luxury a long shower can be. Perhaps you’ve even forgotten that there is such thing as a long shower. Behold – it can be done! Simply get in the shower, and stay in there. Shampoo your hair twice. Exfoliate. Moisturize. Maybe you even get crazy and just stand there doing nothing. (Just make sure the bathroom door is locked before you get in!)
2. GO FOR A DRIVE WITH LOUD MUSIC
And not just loud, but obnoxiously loud. Make a playlist of songs you love – whether it’s boy-bands or heavy metal (or both, whatever) – and sing your face off. Pound the steering wheel, shimmy those shoulders and make the people in the car next to you feel super awkward as they witness your moves. The point is, you’ll be on a high and feeling like your younger self in no time. (If noise isn’t your thing, see #3.)
3. GO FOR A DRIVE IN SILENCE
If you’re at a place where noise of any kind is basically your worst nightmare, try driving in silence. And we don’t mean drive to the store and running other general errands in silence, we mean drive just for the sake of driving. You might even feel the urge to talk to yourself out loud – that’s cool too.
4. TAKE A SHAMELESS SELFIE
It’s no secret that moms of this generation are obsessed with taking photos of their kids. Heck – we took over 200 photos of ours last week. This Mother’s Day, take your photos with the little ones and then be sure to snap one of yourself, too. Even if being the centre of attention isn’t normally your thing, smile big and take a photo anyway. You’ve got a lot to be proud of, after all!
5. LIGHT A CANDLE AND READ
Even if it’s a beautiful, warm afternoon in May, send the kids out with your significant other for an hour and light a candle. (Pick a cheap one up at the grocery store if you don’t have one on hand.) There’s something automatically calming about having a candle lit, and it’s all the better when accompanied by a cozy couch and something to read. It can be a new book you’ve been waiting to start, an old favourite or the back of a cereal box. Whatever the case, allow yourself to get lost for a few minutes (and if you end up falling asleep, that’s totally okay!)
6. GO FOR A WALK
This can easily be done with or without the family. But if it stresses you out just thinking about getting everyone packed up and out the door, leave ’em behind and set off alone. Much like going for an aimless drive, a walk with no purpose (other than getting fresh air and exercise) does wonders for both the mind and body. Even if you’re leaving home exhausted, you’ll feel refreshed by the time you make it back to your front door.
7. MIX YOURSELF A DRINK
Your go-to beverage might be coffee, a diet pop or just a glass of tap water. Why not make yourself feel extra special and mix up something slightly fancier? A simple mocktail can often be created out of ingredients you already have at home, or else you can make a quick trip to the grocery store (or send hubby out instead) if there’s something specific you’re craving. Feel like having the alcoholic version? Combine it with #7 for an even wilder night!
8. WATCH A TRASHY MOVIE
We’ll leave the definition of “trashy” up to you here, but essentially, we’re aiming for flicks that offer a “guilty pleasure” vibe. There is a time and place for Oscar-winning, thought-provoking masterpieces, and it’s not now. A thriller like Cruel Intentions or a classic comedy like Clueless could do the trick – just get the kiddos to bed and say hello to Netflix.
9. PAINT YOUR TOENAILS
We don’t care if you have zero plans to show off those piggies anytime soon. Paint them anyway! Better yet, why not go all out and make them bright, coral pink? Visiting the nail salon can be pricey – many mamas save professional pedicures for a special occasion or holiday. But we guarantee that catching a glimpse of your cheerful toes as you roll out of bed or step into the shower will brighten your day!
10. CALL A FRIEND
You’re probably thinking that calling a friend isn’t anything special. But factor in how much time you spend texting, emailing and communicating via social media, and you’ll likely realize that actual phone chats have been few and far between. Choose a friend out of the blue (that’s right – no texting first to say “calling you in 5″) and give them a shout. We’re willing to bet that it’ll not only make your day, but your friend’s, too!
11. DO AN ODD CHORE
Okay, we know this sounds weird. But we all have a project/junk drawer/corner of the closet that has been nagging at us for months (or years) and could really use some attention. While it is work, it’s not work like scrubbing grime out of the bathtub or cleaning out the cat’s litter box. Sometimes the simple act of crossing an unusual task off of our ominous, ever-growing to-do lists can feel like a weight being lifted.
12. TAKE A NAP
You probably find napping to be a foreign concept. We get it. Even when you technically have the time for a nap, there are always SO. MANY. other things to do. But in honour of Mother’s Day weekend, we encourage you to schedule yourself a sweet, simple nap. Ask your significant other, a relative or a friend to take your kids out for a couple hours (or lock them away securely in another area of your home) and allow yourself to take advantage of the quiet alone time.
13. PLAN A FUTURE OUTING
Sometimes planning a special outing can be as enjoyable as the outing itself. You might not be in the position to splurge last minute on a big day out for Mother’s Day, but that doesn’t mean you can’t look ahead. Browse sites like LivingSocial or Groupon for discounted local activities or mini getaways. Even if you don’t purchase anything on the spot, you might get some great ideas for a future occasion. Bonus: You’ll have time to save up some cash and something exciting to look forward to.
14. WRITE IN A JOURNAL
Or draw a picture, or doodle, or write a letter to your kid, or simply scribble. It doesn’t even have to be in a proper journal or notebook – a sheet of lined paper will do. Let yourself get lost in the task of creating something, whether it’s written or visual, and you’ll feel lighter when your work of art is complete.
15. ENJOY YOUR KIDS
We know that inside, even amidst the day-to-day struggles of bottles, diapers, homework, hockey practice, school fundraising, spills, tumbles and cries, that our kids have given us the gift that keeps on giving: pure, unbreakable love. Take a few minutes to just love them. Hug them even if they squirm, kiss them even if their faces are snotty. Remember the way his little chin dimple looked on the day he was born, and the moment you literally screamed with excitement when she first rolled over on her own. Let go of the struggles for a little while and focus on the love – in a way that only a mom could possibly understand. After all, it’s your day, mama!