When you’re having a baby, there’s so, so much to think about. In between choosing nursery colours, wondering if your little one will come late or early and taking all those parenting classes, one of the fun things you get to do is figure out a name.
You know, that thing your son or daughter is going to grow up with for the rest of his or her life. No pressure, or anything.
There are so many factors to consider, too. Does it have meaning? A nice ring to it? Do you and your partner both like it? Does it stand up to the schoolyard test, a.k.a. does it rhyme with ridiculous things? Is it different and unique? Not too unique though. After all, while you probably aren’t going for Apple or Pilot Inspector, you are seriously considering changing that c to a k in Kaden. Because no one wants to regret this decision.
As it turns out, if you do end up second-guessing your choice you wouldn’t be alone. According to a survey by Momsnet, roughly one fifth of us have regrets in the naming department. The survey asked 1,362 parents whether they ever regretted their child’s first or middle names. Not surprisingly, roughly 18 per cent said yes.
The most common reason, at about 25 per cent, was that the name was… well, too common. But parents also cited being pressured into picking a name or feeling that the name just didn’t fit the child in question. Bad nicknames, problems with the spelling or a “shift in public perception” since their kid was born rounded out the regrets list.
Valid reasons, to be sure. Which means we may have even more to think about before picking a name these days. To cope, we’ve heard of some couples making a list of their top choices and not deciding on the actual name until birth. Others have tested out their pick with friends and family to see how it goes over. Still others kept the name to themselves, but practiced saying it aloud to the womb whenever they were alone.
No matter how you go about it, picking a name is a very personal and special thing; it’s one of the many joys of having a baby. But hey, if you do happen to wind up regretting the name you pick, just think. Your kids can always pull a Zowie Bowie/Duncan Jones and change it when they’re older.
So really, no pressure.