Welcome to the latest installment of the Social Suggests: you ask, we answer.
An engaged couple is vegan. They are trying to determine if they offer only a vegan menu to their guests OR offer an omnivore menu. He wants vegan. She wants flexibility. Who’s right? Who is your wedding for : you or your guests?
I think there are a few things going on here. People get married for different reasons: love, better tax deductions, religion, parental or societal pressure, indifference. So a wedding can mean different things for different couples.
But let’s assume this couple is having a wedding because they want to celebrate their love with their friends and family.
Presumably, they’d like their wedding to reflect their tastes and personalities. They are vegan. Good for them. This is a lifestyle choice that I admire. Having a vegan spread at their wedding seems very fitting.
Sure, Uncle Doug might be expecting the usual over-cooked slab of grey roast beef and he may bawk when a gorgeous plate of Ottolenghi-inspired stewed lentils is set down before him.
But then Uncle Doug is going to taste those lentils and his mind will be blown. There will be fresh, bright salad, roasted vegetables, legumes—maybe even potato gnocchi in a tomato sauce or eggless pasta with peas, leeks and mint!
This will not kill Uncle Doug. In fact, Uncle Doug might be thanking the married couple in the morning after he has the best bowel movement of his life.
I think the key would be not to make a big deal of the vegan menu. Just pick delicious dishes and serve them. I’d wager that most guests won’t bat an eyelash. They’ll just be happy to have good, fresh food. Meat-eaters will survive. It’s just one dinner. And besides, it’s not like any of us omnivores have had the best steak or lobster or mahi-mahi of our lives at a wedding. This just doesn’t happen.
And how about this? The husband-to-be can meet his future wife half way and agree to serve a cake made with butter and eggs.