Food blogger Rachel Farnsworth has grey hair. It’s a part of who she is, and, as one not-so-friendly commenter recently discovered, she’s proud of it.
When the commenter pointed out her few greys on Farnsworth’s website, suggesting she dye her hair so as not to look like an “old hag,” the blogger decided to answer back. Normally the chef just posts recipes, but this time, she faced the camera not to lambaste the commenter for being a hate-spewing troll, but rather to explain why she loves her grey hairs. And her message is powerful as hell.
Watch it, and you’ll understand why it has almost 12 million views.
Her husband, she explains, wants her to keep her greys so they can grow old together. Awwwww. So cute! But watch on to discover that, the reason he wants this is because she has a rare autoimmune disease and likely won’t live to the age of 70.
“Every sign of aging that I have, is a sign that I’m still alive,” she says. Whoa! We never thought of it like that…
She recalls being bullied for a genetic jaw deformity that became prominent during puberty. As a vulnerable teen, she let it get to her, believing that she was but the sum total of her physical flaws. After she matured into an adult, she had a corrective surgery, thinking it’d change her entire being. And while she did feel happier for a bit, it didn’t take her long to realize she was the same old gal inside. Today she’s adopted a new, less self-critical outlook.
She goes on to name all her imperfections in the video, with the knowledge and acceptance that they’re a part of who she is. This, she says, is what the world needs more of. And the way we see it, she’s not wrong.
“I don’t have time to waste criticizing myself,” Farnsworth says, “and I don’t have time to waste criticizing other people.” You know what, now that she mentions it, neither do we.