Busy Philipps has been living up to her name, airing her thoughts on something that happened to her recently – something women all over can surely relate to.
Dropping into a Rite Aid pharmacy following a gym session, a fan approached Philipps to tell her, completely unsolicited, that she had lost some of her “’plumpness.'” Taking to Instagram stories to share details of the incident in full in a series of posts, Philipps didn’t hold back on her thoughts and feelings. “She was so sweet and had such a calming manner, and in the loveliest way she said, ‘You’ve lost some of your plumpness from Cougar Town. You look nice still, but you’ve lost some of your plumpness.'”
The words may have been kindly delivered, sure, but they were uninvited nonetheless. And the presumptuousness of the encounter left Philipps reeling. “You know how when you’re a woman, sometimes people feel like they should be able to comment about your body all the time or make laws about your body? Well when you’re an actress, or any female in the public eye, everyone feels that they can comment on your body all the fucking time. Always.”
She went on to share her history with this kind of thing, and it seems pretty exhausting. “The amount of people in my long 20-year career in this industry who’ve come up to me in grocery stores and Bed Bath and Beyonds to talk with people about my weight … I think it’s a good thing to err on the side of ‘Let’s not talk to people about their bodies unless they bring it up first and they want to talk about their bodies.'”
She also highlighted the difficult position it puts her in – “There’s no way to really handle it in the moment without coming off like an ass… so you just have to say, ‘Oh, I’m glad you liked the show’ and move on.”
The lady makes all good points. We certainly can’t think of the last time a male public figure spoke up with this kind of experience. And even if they did, who has the right to objectify another’s body like that? We would imagine Rite Aid lady wouldn’t dream of going up to a complete stranger to make such a comment.
So it’s high time we start respecting both others’ bodies, and boundaries.