Let’s face it: Filing for divorce is usually a pretty traumatic experience.
Everything you’ve built with your partner suddenly has to be ripped apart and split up. Arrangements need to be made so both parents have time with the kids, the possessions need to be cut in half, court battles ensue and essentially, you say bye to the person you expected to be spending the rest of your life with.
This kind of experience doesn’t generally bring out a good side in people. It can actually make them intensely bitter, especially if an arms race for a superior lawyer develops.
Fortunately, this isn’t the case for all couples.
A pair in Calgary actually marked their split in quite a unique way last week–with a little something called a #Divorceselfie. In a photo posted to Facebook, Shannon and Chris Neuman can be seen standing in front of the Calgary Courts Centre. But instead of glaring at each other through gritted teeth, the former lovers are all smiles.
In the caption, the couple writes that they are grateful that they could end their marriage “respectfully, thoughtfully and honorably” in a way that will allow them to be their best as “parenting partners for their children.”
“They’ll never have to wonder which side of the auditorium to run to after their Christmas concert or spring play, because we’ll be sitting together. They won’t have to struggle with their own wedding planning because we’ll be sitting on the same side of the aisle – THEIR side,” Shannon wrote. “We have struggled, but we have succeeded in the plan we came up with together, to come out on the other side as their two parents who live in two houses who give them two teams to love them up two times as much.”
The post ends with some wise words for any other married couples who might be heading down the same path.
“…Now that you know it’s possible – please consider our way if you find yourself on this road, or share our message if we can help remind them that it’s possible to love your kids more than you hate/distrust/dislike your ex (which we have felt at times on the journey but for the record we do actually like each other).”
Now that’s a commitment!