Your dirty bathroom floors aren’t sexy. In fact, they’re pretty scuzzy and in need of a good scrubbing. But the act of scrubbing, if shared equally between couples, is sexy. In fact, according to a new bit of science, it will lead to more and better sex. All the sex! Great sex! And who doesn’t want that?
The study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family suggests that couples that share the domestic duties have superior sex lives to those with imbalance in this area. This news has us seriously wanting to pick up the Swiffer and go to town on those cobwebs that have been creeping up in the corners of the kitchen….and then go to town somewhere else.
The study, “The Gendered Division of Housework and Couples’ Sexual Relationships: A Reexamination,” comes to us courtesy of four American universities that struck out to disprove an old, totally dated study that used data from the ’80s and ’90s. Let’s just say that this “reexamination” was long overdue, and highly welcome.
Researchers dissected the sex life of three different types of heterosexual couples: conventional, those wherein the woman did the majority (65 per cent or more) of the work; egalitarian, those that split the work (the man pulling 35-65 per cent of the weight); and counterconventional, wherein the male does the majority of the household work.
What they found: sharing is caring, basically. And caring is sexy.
“Feelings of fairness and satisfaction with the division of housework are central to couples’ relationship satisfaction, which is strongly related to sexual intimacy,” the study states.
This totally checks out; there’s nothing that turns women on less than inequality. (Dudes, if you’re not going to wipe your pee off the toilet seat, we’re probably not going to want to reproduce with you–just sayin’.)
The study also found that couple with inequality in the relationship suffered in the sack. According to the study, “perceived inequality has deleterious impacts on couples’ sex lives, and today more men and women believe that conventional or counterconventional domestic arrangements are unfair.”
One of the interesting findings here is that the counterconventional couples are having the least amount of sex–just half of as much as egalitarian couples. It begs the question: why? But that’s likely a question for another study.
In the meantime, if you need us, we’ll be in the kitchen/dining room/laundry room/wherever needs some tidying, getting busy.
In the interest of fairness (and great sex) we enlisted writers, and lovers, Lisa Felepchuk and Coleman Molnar to co-author this piece.