Guess what? Women have breasts. We know. Mind-blowing, right? And for centuries, millennia, the whole history of humanity even, women have breastfed their babies. But for some reason, even after all that time, there are people out there who find it absolutely disgusting to see a woman breastfeeding in public. Is it a little off-putting to see a woman’s breast just out? Maybe. But for the nanosecond it takes to realize what she’s doing, it shouldn’t be a big deal. Just look away and move on. Sadly, a number of people can’t seem to do that. Well, Lauren Smith and her husband Brock Smith are done with feeling shamed.
The couple went out to eat with their two children, like families do. And because babies are babies and eat when they want to eat, Lauren stopped what she was doing, busted out a blanket to cover herself with and proceeded to feed two-month-old Everly. But Everly wasn’t happy.
“This evening was abnormally hot, and our daughter Everly was having a rough time latching to my wife because she was hot and uncomfortable under the cover,” Smith told People. “So my wife says, ‘Well Brock, would you like to eat underneath a blanket!?’ So, trying to find the fun in everything, I threw a blanket over my head for the rest of my meal and dessert.”
Ridiculous? Of course. But just as ridiculous as it is for Everly and Lauren. Lauren filmed her husband trying to eat with the blanket over his head and they decided to share the video on Facebook to make a point about breastfeeding in public and how annoying it can be to have to cover up.
The Smiths work with moms and moms-to-be in a fitness group they run so he’s very aware of what they’re going through.
“We hear horror stories all the time about the harassment and looks that they receive,” he told the magazine. “[My wife] has never been shamed directly, but as her husband, I see the looks, and being in tune with my wife, I know she is uncomfortable with doing it publicly.”
Smith, who is a high school teacher, says there’s that extra pressure to appear modest in case they run into one of his students.
“The anxiety with nursing in public with our first child, Elliot, now 3, was so real that she hardly ever left the house,” said Smith. “This second time around, I’ve made it my mission to make her feel as comfortable as possible in every situation. I make it my priority to serve my wife in a way that allows her to continually be selfless for our children.”
Smith hopes the video will inspire other fathers to do the same for their partners.
“I want men to take away that our wives and partners need our support with nursing,” he added. “My wife wants women to take away that there is a community of like-minded moms. Something that is so beautiful and natural has been tainted by society and oversexualized media – and there is an obvious double standard.”
If only everyone could think the way Smith does. Here’s to hoping this serves as inspiration to not just the fathers and husbands and partners out there, but also to those people who still clutch their pearls when they see a baby suckling on its mama’s breast.