There’s something reassuring about celebrities getting real about the difficulties of parenting. These people have access to hired help and resources that a lot of us ‘regular folks’ don’t, so it’s nice to know that they, too, struggle with the demands of looking after children, making the rest of us feel like we’re actually doing pretty-sorta-mostly-okay. On a good day. The latest celeb to (metaphorically-speaking) pour themselves a glass of wine and pull up a chair to the “Let’s get real” table is Kate Middleton, who admits that being a mother is difficult. We could make a ‘kids are a royal pain’ pun here, but her three children are too young for that joke. We’ll wait until they’re teenagers.
The Duchess of Cambridge visited the Family Action charity in London on Tuesday and spoke with organizers about the trials of parenting. “It’s so hard,” said Kate. “You get a lot of support with the baby as a mother particularly in the early days, but after the age of 1, it falls away. After that, there isn’t a huge amount … of books to read.”
The mom of three–Prince George (5), Princess Charlotte (3) and eight-month-old Prince Louis–admitted that even with her access to paid and family help, parenting is still difficult. “Everybody experiences the same struggle,” said Kate.
Kate and Prince William hired Maria Teresa Turrion Borrallo as their family nanny in 2014, only a few months after Prince George was born. Borrallo is the family’s only live-in childcare and comes with an impressive set of skills she learned while completing her childcare training at Norland College in the UK, including Taekwondo, anti-terrorism, driving in extreme weather, and avoiding paparazzi. She’s essentially James Bond and Mary Poppins all rolled into one.
Middleton has famously suffered through difficult pregnancies with her three children, having been diagnosed with hyperemesis gravidarum, a form of severe morning sickness that should be called what it sounds like, which is 10 months of feeling like hot death. Her comments on parenting at the Family Action charity are a refreshingly honest take on parenting, focusing on motherhood especially. Even though Prince William seems like a pretty hands-on dad, Middleton had to endure the pregnancies, which meant looking after her other children while pregnant or recovering from labour. Even the most supportive parenting partner can’t share that burden.
Kate Middleton getting real about the struggles of motherhood, including the lack of information available once babies reach the infant stage, can go a long way in making other moms, or in this case, mums, feel less alone. If it’s tough for the Duchess, the rest of us must be amazing for keeping our heads above water, right? Right!