There are things you should never, ever ask a woman. “When are you going to have children?” “When are you having more?” “Is it that time of the month?” “Why aren’t you married?” “How far along are you?” “Are you sure you should be eating that?” We could go on and on (and on) but you get the idea. And while these questions are just a drop in the bucket of sentences that should stop being uttered to a woman’s face, social media makes it easier for those judgy, nosy busy-bodies to put in their two cents — even though no one asked.
Australian fashion designer Yiota Kouzoukas took to Instagram to address an issue that has rankled some of her 200,000-plus followers. No, not about the clothing she designs for Soba Skirts, a label she co-owns. Rather, some people have had a beef with her pregnancy bump being too small for a woman who is six months pregnant.
Bump update! 🙊#6monthspregnant and I’m overwhelmed with the amount of questions I receive about my pregnancy so far, so I’ll be sharing some more about it on my posts ❤️One of the most common things I’m asked about is MORNING SICKNESS. Yes, I had it from week 6-15. As someone who’s terrified of vomitting, it was my own form of hell expecting to vomit every morning 😭the only thing that helped subside the daily nausea was lemon + ginger tea and eating snacks very late at night so I didn’t wake up completely starving. Nothing I tried helped the actual vomitting but I was lucky that it was only once a day! Hopefully this helps some of you lovely ladies who are currently expecting and going through morning/night/all day sickness. Any questions, just ask 😊
Now, granted, Yiota has been very open about sharing her pregnancy stories and invites anyone with questions to ask her directly — but we’re pretty sure she wasn’t expecting the kind of awful comments from people which she passed along to Cosmo, things like “No more baby in that belly” and “Start eating more so your baby can grow.” Ugh.
And while she claimed to not be bothered by the response, Kouzoukas still felt the need to clarify what was going on with her body — and her elaborate, informed explanation likely caught many off-guard.
*BUMP SIZE* I receive a lot of DMs and comments regarding the size of my bump, which is why I want to explain a few things about my body. Not that I’m upset/affected by these comments at all, but more for the reason of educating in the hope that some people are less judgemental on others and even themselves. For the first 4 months of my pregnancy, my uterus was retroverted/tilted which means that I was growing backwards into my body rather than outwards. Most people with this type of uterus tilt forward at around 12 weeks and continue growing outwards like you normally would. My uterus didn’t “flip forward” until well into being 4 months pregnant because of the backwards tilted position paired with decade old endometriosis scarring that I have on my uterosacral ligaments. Basically, these ligaments are acting like anchors keeping my uterus “inside” rather than “outside”, which is why I appeared smaller than most people for the first 4 or 5 months. Now, at #6monthspregnant I’m growing forwards just like everyone else while the scarring on my ligaments slowly breaks down. My torso is also short and my stomach is naturally toned which is keeping my belly super tight, so I’ve had to personally stop all ab exercises to avoid any issues with possible ab separation. This is for me personally, as instructed by my doctor and is in no way a blanket rule for anyone else. I’m perfectly healthy, baby is perfectly healthy and that’s all that matters. Our bodies and bumps are all different and our shapes and sizes are all different too ❤️
Polite yet very matter-of fact; nothing to hate here! Some people may not know that a tilted or retroverted uterus could result in this, so Yiota educating others “in the hope that some people are less judgmental on others and even themselves” is a beautiful thing.
This photo is from 2 weeks ago at #25weekspregnant Throwback as I’ve been sick with migraines and haven’t been able to take any new pics. Thank you to everyone who messaged me with their own personal migraine cures ❤️My migraines are muscle/scar tissue related from multiple car accidents, so I usually stay on top of them with remedial massage, physio and regular exercise. Unfortunately due to being pregnant, I haven’t been able to stay on top of my management as well as usual so I’ve been down and out with migraines again. 4 days, lots of sleep, crying, vomiting and massages later, I woke up feeling great today! Let’s hope it stays this way ❤️ Anyone else suffer from migraines while pregnant that aren’t hormonal? PS. thanks @gkazoo1 for the endless neck and back massages
Here’s the thing: every pregnancy is different. What food she craves, whether or not she’s hit with morning sickness, how much weight she gains, it all depends on the woman. And just like every pregnancy is different, so too are the baby bumps. So, just as you wouldn’t/shouldn’t tell someone that she “looks tired” or should “smile” and “cheer up,” don’t say anything about how a pregnant woman looks. Because maybe, just maybe, you don’t know the whole story.