What is “normal sex”?
It kind of feels like the definition of sex has gotten away from us lately. We’re inundated with everyone else’s ideas of what it should look like, feel like, sound like, and how long it should last. Everyone from the media, to the porn industry, to your favourite magazine and your middle school teacher seemingly knows all the details of the “normal” sex you should be having. And, not surprisingly, it’s all very subjective, terribly inconsistent, and often downright unreasonable. That’s why we love it when the scientists come along and say, “wait a minute, just what are you measuring here, and how are you doing it?” Good old reliable science, always making sense of the confusing
The study he looked at followed 500 couples from the US, UK, Netherlands, Spain, and Turkey, with men over the age of 18, and had them time their sexual activity from “start” (penetration), to “finish” (male ejaculation). The findings revealed that the couples were having sex for anywhere from 33 seconds to 44 minutes, with the average duration being about five minutes.
Huh. Pretty big gap, but totally attainable average, right?
Dr. Zietsch also identified a few other interesting things about “normal sex,” like the fact that whether the man is circumcised or not, or whether he’s wearing a condom or not, apparently has no bearing on how long he’ll last.
Age, however, contrary to what some older gents might tell you, does have a bearing, with older men lasting less long than younger men.
So, the takeaway here is really that the concept of “normal sex” is pretty broad, and you’re probably doing it right. Good job!
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