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If you’ve ever been to a gender reveal party, you know how touching it can be when an expecting mother slices into a white-icing-covered cake and learns the sex of her unborn child for the first time based on the colour inside — usually, pink or blue to represent a girl or a boy. It’s heartwarming to be a part of the experience. But that doesn’t mean it makes sense, really.

People all over Twitter are claiming that gender reveal cakes reinforce gender stereotypes and make cisgender assumptions before babies are even born. These cakes recently came under public scrutiny when Parker Molloy, a writer at Upworthy, began retweeting a collection of the most ridiculous “gender” reveal cakes online.

Here’s one that really pairs females with pink and flowers while pairing males with green and the outdoors. Typical.

And if that’s not enough for you, here’s one with an even more direct metaphor:

Or, check out this ‘mustache or bows’ design.

The issue with these kinds of cakes is that they’re supposed to celebrate the sex, but they end up making parents reinforce the gender binary, and then push that onto their infant from day one. Then, cue the inevitable onslaught of blue or pink gifts, depending on whether it’s a doe or a buck.

Because, yeah, it’s 2018, and so what if a little boy likes pink? Or what if he actually identifies as a little girl? Cakes that perpetuate stereotypes can actually do more harm than simply spike the blood sugar of party guests.

Maybe you’re currently pregnant and still want to throw a party where you communicate through baked goods. Well, Molloy has come up with a solution. Her idea? Fill a cake with a neutral colour that has no meaning whatsoever. Say, purple icing or green icing or black jelly beans, and when you cut into the cake, let friends and family sort out the meaning for themselves. Your role: act super stoked. Kind of like an obscure, contemporary art piece.

At the end of the day, if you’ve been so fortunate to conceive and are about to welcome a tiny human into the world — one you’ll be wholly responsible for loving, teaching and caring for, thus moulding them into a kind, compassionate, intelligent human — you’ve got your work cut out for you. The gender of your infant doesn’t need to be your greatest concern.