Hailey Bieber is the latest celebrity to use her platform to dispel the myth that being rich, famous and beautiful is a recipe for happiness. The model and newest ambassador for Bare Minerals sat down with Glamour to talk about her favourite beauty products, but the conversation quickly turned to Bieber’s dismay over the constant push to project a perfect image on social media. “I just wish we all embraced the truth behind social media more,” said Bieber.
This year we’ve seen Bieber’s husband Justin Bieber step back from his career and take time to work on his mental and emotional health, openly sharing his journey with his millions of fans as a way to destigmatize discussions around mental health. Now Hailey is doing the same, opening up about the pressure that comes from seeing edited versions of reality image on social media.
“I admire people coming forward and talking about [anxiety],” said Hailey. “We all struggle with it. I think there’s been this stigma around it for so long. People look at celebrities who are famous or successful and think they have it all together. Like, they have such an insane career, or they make so much money, that they should be happy. But it’s really kind of the opposite.”
Having grown up in Hollywood as a member of the famous Baldwin family and marrying one of the biggest pop stars in the world, Hailey knows better than anyone the pressures of fame. Thankfully, Hailey says she’s seeing a positive shift in the discussions about mental health.
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“There was a time in the industry when it was negative to talk about that kind of stuff. Nobody wanted to talk about what was really happening, and everybody felt like there was this pressure to keep up a facade—or pressure to keep up this perfect lifestyle and make everything look really good from the outside. [Everyone would say,] “Oh, we’re really happy. I’m really happy. I’m doing fine,” when really it was like you’re kind of crumbling on the inside,” said Hailey. “And I think I used to do that a little bit. People would ask me, “How are you?” and I’d be like, “I’m fine; I’m good.” But really I’d be crying in my hotel room all night. You just have to be honest that life sucks sometimes. It’s hard. Things are difficult. I just think the more we are open about it, the more we can help people find solutions.”
Noting that anxiety often peaks between the ages of 18-25, Hailey says that the smoke and mirrors of social media are making things even worse. “I wish more young people understood that on photo shoots, that’s us doing our job. It’s like a movie, it’s not real—it’s a set with lighting, and cameras, and production. It’s created. I hope nobody looks at a photo of a model where they have like all this hair and makeup, and think that that’s what they’re supposed to look like all the time. People need to understand the contrast.”
Hailey credits reading Daniel Siegel’s Mindsight in 2018 as one of the biggest turning points in her life, with the book on meditation teaching her how to reframe thoughts that were causing anxiety. Hailey says that the book, coupled with therapy, has helped her to learn how to ‘not be ruled her thoughts.’
“You have to ask yourself questions like, Is that what’s really true? or Do I really believe that is the absolute truth? and counter what you think. I’ve found that you can solve a lot of things through self-help meditation and therapy.”
Bieber says she also likes to unwind by taking naps and running errands, listening to music and taking time to herself, something she notes is important especially when in a relationship.
When Justin and Hailey got married last year, I think we all thought they were too young. We were wrong. The pair have shown a level of maturity and a sense of responsibility with their voices that few celeb couples twice their age have demonstrated. The kids are alright.
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stepping into 2019 I want to be more open, I want to be more open about the things I struggle with, and be able to be more vulnerable. I’m a 22 years old, and the truth is no matter how amazing life may look from the outside I struggle… I’m insecure, I’m fragile, I’m hurting, I have fears, I have doubts, I have anxiety, I get sad, I get angry. I have had more days than I can count where I’ve found myself scrolling through Instagram comparing myself, comparing my looks, feeling like I’m not good enough feeling like I lack so many things and really struggling to be confident in who I am because I constantly feel like I’m just not good enough. Every single day is a confidence battle for me. I’m not writing this for a pity party or for sympathy but just to simply say, I’m a human.. I’m a young woman, I’m learning who I am and, it’s REALLY FREAKING HARD. It’s hard finding who you are, but what’s even harder is being picked apart and compared to other women while trying to do that. There are days that I’m simply broken because of it. It would be incredible if other young girls and women could find it in themselves to lift each other up, to stop making other women who are struggling JUST LIKE THEM, feel incompetent and less than. We ALL have flaws, and that will never change. What I do know is, God made us individuals for a reason, with our own beauty, our own personalities, and our own story because there’s a specific plan and purpose for each and every human created and he makes no mistakes!! So this year I’m gonna do my very best to just be ME and be confident with who I am. Cause I am enough, and I’m loved, and you are enough and you’re loved.