Most people have, at some point of their lives, struggled to adapt to change. There’s really no way to avoid it, so how do we survive the big shifts in life?
Motivational speaker and best-selling author Gregg Brown is here to help us with these difficult circumstances in our lives. With over 25 years of experience speaking at conferences, seminars and the like, Brown has some tips and advice for tackling change and coming out on top.
ADAPTING TO CHANGE
If we’re not used to adapting to change in our lives, or encounter others that are resisting change, it can be very frustrating. Be understanding and practice being comfortable in ambiguity – living in the grey, not being entirely certain how things will go. The more you do this, the more comfortable you will be with change when it does occur.
TAKE A POSITIVE APPROACH
Positive thinking isn’t going to cut it here – sitting at home and thinking positive isn’t going to do anything. You need action, a solid approach – not just putting a positive spin on things. Ground yourself in facts while balancing the emotional aspect – knowing you can’t fight emotion with fact – when you’re in the middle of things. Try thinking, instead of ‘this is good change’ (which it may not be), ‘we will do our best throughout this change’. Promoting action and a positive approach is the first step to facing change head-on.
DON’T STOP TRYING TO ADAPT
Many people say they want change, but end up freezing when it happens. Look at your past if that happens – the skills you have and the way you have handled similar situations. You’ll come to realize that you absolutely can cope with this change, and will be comforted to understand that you’re already equipped with the skills necessary to tackle most changes that come your way. This will create a positive approach, and a much more efficient way of dealing with change in your life.
HELP OTHERS ADAPT TO CHANGE
When you’re trying to motivate or assist someone through change, it can be an extremely frustrating experience, as that person might be stuck in negativity. Remove the word ‘should’ from your vocabulary (‘You should’ve done this’)—it creates guilt, shame, and blame. Instead, use ‘could’, a word that incites possibility, and encourages a positive approach. ‘You could do this’ is a much more exciting thought for someone stuck in change – the very thought alone could re-energize their positivity immediately.
Watch the video above to hear more from Brown about the benefits of a positive approach and other tips on how to handle change.