The art of being a good wing (wo)man is simple – your goal is to manufacture chemistry between your friend and the person he/she is interested in. However, with today’s movies, it can be easy to mistake proper winging techniques with terrible pick-up lines.
You don’t need to manufacture chemistry by listing off your friend’s random allergies in the case that a hot woman has one in common! And, you definitely do not need to “take one for the team” by flirting with or sleeping with the less attractive friend.
It becomes clear that movies get it very wrong; so, according to GQ, here’s some advice on how to show off your friend as a fun (and safe!) person to be around:
“Being a wing (wo)man is all about knowing when to walk over and talk to someone, when to stay, and when to leave.” So, if you are at a bar, remember that you must be sober enough to understand and read subtle social cues! There is nothing worse than making someone uncomfortable and being unaware of your actions. And, worst of all, your wing (wo)man-ing reputation will take a hit, too.
Talk to everyone!
“You’re the person who is unafraid to approach a group of people and say hello!” You’re the hero who re-introduces your friend when they forget the name of the person they’re interested in! And, most important of all: you’re the person who makes the chemistry happen!
Know when to walk away!
“The moment you sense the person you’re chatting with begin to act uninterested, make an excuse and walk away.” One-word answers and hinting their need to get back with their friends are big red flags of disinterest. Pay attention for those keywords and exit the conversation!
“The best thing you can do as a wing (wo)man, is to present yourself as a cool, easy-going, and interesting person, so that your friend seems equally cool in return.” Your job is to compliment your friend’s personality, but in a way that doesn’t overpower or take attention away from them. Keep in mind, your job is to create chemistry for your friend, not for yourself!
So, ditch the terrible movie pick-up lines and keep these four easy rules in mind. Do you have what it takes to be a wing (wo)man?