Nothing says quality time like being in the same room. Whether it’s you and your husband or you and your kids, it’s all good because you’re all together. Except there’s one problem: You’re on your phone, hubby’s on his, your daughter’s on the tablet, and your son has ear buds in, listening to music. Quality? No. Quantity? Nope. Queasy? Getting there.
Shiyang he, a designer at advertising agency Ogilvy‘s Beijing office, has created a series of ads for the Shenyang Center For Psychological Research, which shows the damaging effects smartphones can have on our personal lives. The three ads show typical home-life situations, with a smartphone-shaped obstacle blocking any attempt at conversation or interaction between two people. And the caption of each image reads “The More You Connect, The Less You Connect.” Hits home, right?
It’s not just parents and kids. All kinds of relationships are suffering. There was a time when putting a TV in the bedroom was frowned upon. Because if there was a distraction like the news or a Friends rerun on, that took away from any chance for intimacy. But phones are even worse, because you’re not even doing that together. He’s playing Candy Crush, you’re on Pinterest, and eventually you’re both tired and bleary-eyed and with barely a “goodnight,” your time together is done. As is another missed opportunity for that closeness, that connection.
That funny feeling you’re getting? It’s nott nausea but, rather, guilt. But that’s a good thing, that you’re feeling something and haven’t turned into a complete robot. There are some ways to break your cellphone addiction. Maybe set up a designated spot in your kitchen where everyone drops their device — and leaves it there. If you’re phone’s buzzing, don’t sweat it. If it’s important, they’ll call back. Create a no-phone time zone. And keep it out of the bedroom (and the bathroom, for that matter).
Because if looking at these images is making you feel a little crappy, then it’s probably time you rethink your relationship…with your phone.
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