Ferris Bueller said it best: “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Now, Ferris wasn’t a parent; he was just an enterprising high school student who could handle everyone and everything. But isn’t that what being a mom is all about? Whether you have one child or the makings of a basketball team, moms do so much, but a lot of it is behind the scenes so it’s easy to feel exhausted and all alone.
For all the moms out there, blogger Cameron Poynter has the words you need to hear. Because she gets it, and knows you need this. Moms are capable of doing so much, to the point where it can feel pretty isolating, but it’s not just you.
“I am the keeper of schedules, she wrote in a recent Facebook post. “Of practices, games, and lessons. Of projects, parties, and dinners. Of appointments and homework assignments.
“I am the keeper of information. Who needs food 5 minutes before a meltdown occurs and who needs space when he gets angry. Whether there are clean clothes, whether bills are paid, and whether we are out of milk.”
She goes on to write that the keepers solve problems, take the pictures, know everyone’s schedules, are on top of homework, and remind the family to do dishes, and be kind. However big, small, good, bad, these keepers can handle anything. But it can come at a price. Because as much as she knows that her husband and children love her, “sometimes being the Keeper is exhausting.”
She continued: “Most of the time, the weight of these things I keep resembles the upper elements on the periodic table – lighter than air, buoying me with a sense of purpose. But sometimes the weight of the things I keep pulls me down below the surface until I am kicking and struggling to break the surface and gasp for breath.
“Because all these things I keep are invisible, intangible. They go unnoticed and unacknowledged until they are missed. They are not graded or peer reviewed or ruled on by a court. And sometimes they are taken for granted.”
Poynter’s post reassures all the weary keepers out there that she sees you. And other moms do too. And sometimes, that’s all a person needs to keep on going. To know that someone out there knows you’re making a difference — even if it’s not your own family.
“I know the invisible work you do, which doesn’t come with a pay check or sick leave, is what makes the world go round.”