It’s been more than a year since Jena Malone gave birth to her first child, and while her life may look idyllic to those of us on the outside, Malone is making it clear that things aren’t always what they seem. The new mother took to Instagram recently to share her struggles with depression, reaching out to her community for support in these difficult times.
Motherhood , depression and self worth. I don’t have anything beautiful to say. Except that this struggle is real. The sharp edges are too much to hold without compassion. I’m struggling with this . Compassion for myself and this moment of growth in my life. I know I am not alone in this. I guess I just needed to share, in hopes of being seen and feeling not so very much alone.
“Motherhood , depression and self worth,” she began her post. “I don’t have anything beautiful to say. Except that this struggle is real. The sharp edges are too much to hold without compassion. I’m struggling with this. Compassion for myself and this moment of growth in my life.”
She adds: “I know I am not alone in this. I guess I just needed to share, in hopes of being seen and feeling not so very much alone.
The prayer position is one he naturally commands from me. Children are such great leaders/ teachers. I see all of humanity in his joy and in his impatience . His size demands tender care and kneeling in awe and assistance. Yes they grow fast. But we grow so slow it’s nice to be reminded that everything is passing…into something else constantly. That there is no constant with children except that they will always change. And oh what an amazing lesson. To love what is there not what was.
Whether you’re a mom dealing with eerily similar issues or know someone going through these feelings, her words will hit home. Malone’s post is honest and brutal and sad but, in some ways, reassuring. Because there are times when many moms (or anyone suffering from depression, really) feel completely alone, and it can be comforting to know that others are struggling as well. It’s really not just you.
Malone and partner Ethan DeLorenzo welcomed their son, Ode Mountain, in May 2016. So for those who may have thought postpartum depression only impacted moms shortly after childbirth and it doesn’t last, Jena is proof that it can continue to engulf months and months later.
If there is a positive to be found here it’s that by reaching out and sharing her experiences, Malone may find the support she needs to move forward. And that’s an example we can all follow.
Pay attention Feel blessed Give money Do your research Donate your blood and your jacket and your second car and your entire garage full of crap you don’t use Put it to use Protest, speak , use your voice Put your time where your mouth is Be honest Spread the truth Pass on plastic Change your life Radically Stop being comfortable Buy nothing Give me a hug It’s my birthday And I’m sick of asking for things I don’t need Just to be polite WAKE UP I love you