Back in the day, boys played with action figures and girls played with dolls. Boys wore blue and brown, girls wore pink and purple. Some girls may have preferred Star Wars LEGO blocks to My Little Pony, and some boys may have wished American Boy dolls existed instead of Transformers but those preferences were often shushed. That’s just the way things were, though times are a-changing.
Gender biases continue to exist — but not in Jillian Michaels‘ house. She and fiancée Heidi Rhoades have two children, daughter Lukensia, 6, and son Phoenix, 4. People started noticing that Phoenix’s little ears were pierced so she took to Instagram to explain why — not that she had to.
“His sister got hers pierced and he wanted his done. I wasn’t about to say ‘that’s for girls.” Makes sense to us. Though some are hating on her simple, perfect explanation by saying he’s too young and she’s letting him have whatever he wants and all she had to do was say no. But if it was a four-year-old girl wanting her ears pierced because her older sister had it done, would people be making such a big deal? Considering parents get their infants’ ears pierced, four might seem old in comparison. Plus, at that age, it could be argued that they’re old enough to make a decision — as long as their parents have informed them of the consequences of putting holes in their body and maintaining them for years to come. Or Phoenix might hate them in a couple months, take them out and let the holes close up. Consequences.
Michaels isn’t letting societal gender roles dictate how she raises her kids, and why should she? Whether it’s a boy wanting his ears pierced or to have a doll that looks like him, or a girl who hates dresses or likes to play video games, these stigmas need to end and humans need to open their minds and progress. How we guide our children is important and whether it’s piercing his ears or chopping off her hair, kids — and parents — shouldn’t be judged for going against the norm.
And just look how happy Phoenix looks. It seems like the right decision was made. FOR THEM. But just in case people at the playground have something to say, we think he can handle himself.