The first 24 hours or so after a new mom gives birth can differ from woman to woman. But if things are going well and everyone is healthy, things settle a bit. Baby and mama get some skin-on-skin time, mom is hungry as a hippo, exhausted as hell, emotions are running high (thanks, hormones!) and it’s time for some nesting. Presumably, the last thing any woman wants to do after pushing or having a human extracted from her body is to get her hair and makeup done, put on a designer dress and heels, plaster a smile on her face and walk out the front door of a hospital to a sea of people scrutinizing her every move, trying to get a peek at the bundle of joy in her arms.
That’s what Duchess Kate has done three times now and something her sister-in-law, Duchess Meghan, will likely never do. In fact, Meg had the same response seeing photos of Kate walking down the Lindo Wing steps in 2013 with Prince George, 2015 with Princess Charlotte and 2018 with Prince Louis as many of us did: sympathy.
In words that all but ensure a media-driven feud between the sisters-in-law, a friend of Meghan’s told Page Six that Meg actually “felt sorry” for Kate having to face the world’s media mere hours after giving birth. Because those expectations are way too much for most new moms to handle. And given the choice, Kate would probably opt for stretchy pants and a baggy hoody, no makeup and hair in a messy ponytail. Because who wouldn’t?
Meghan is reportedly choosing comfort — and privacy — over everything else. Royalty is unlikely to change who she is and what she wants. In order for her not to go through what Kate has, she and Harry have decided that the entire world doesn’t need to know what’s going on with them and baby, particularly in the beginning.
“They’re basically conducting the birth in virtual secrecy. I think it’s a bit foolish,” Duncan Larcombe, former royal editor at The Sun, told Page Six. “Harry absolutely hates being the subject of speculation, and this just shows his petulance to the media … it’s just a shame.”
Pfft. Shame? More like self-preservation. We don’t thick it’s a coincidence that the couple launched their Instagram account weeks before the big day. Like other celebrities (yeah, we said it), Meghan and Harry will presumably release the perfect photo (or if we’re lucky, photos) on social media and will eventually pose for more pics at Windsor Castle on their own time. Nothing shameful about that.
Sure, we’re definitely anxious to see any pics of the Sussex family, but we get that they deserve this precious time out of the spotlight, to bond with their babe, and get a handle on their new lives before putting it out there for everyone to see. And judge. While they have millions of fans ready to send them all kinds of lovely and supportive words, there are some who aren’t so kind. So if they want to enjoy these first few days basking in their new family, so be it. What is a shame? That Will and Kate didn’t get that same chance.