If there’s one thing to keep in mind when it comes to having a happy marriage, it’s lots of sex. And who better to know that than someone with 19 kids?
Michelle Duggar is doling out sex tips so if your goal is to have many, many, many children, then she’s your gal. But if your dream is simply to have great sex, then she’s probably not your ideal advisor. In fact, she might be the worst there is.
Duggar took to her blog to dish out some marital advice, and it’s her very first point that has females everywhere up in arms. Passing along “the best piece of advice” she’s ever received (from a friend before she married Jim Bob Duggar), catering to a man’s “special need” might be the most regressive thing you’ll hear in a while.
“She told me: ‘Michelle, I know you’re so excited. You’re a bride-to-be, but some day you’ll be at this point. I’ve been married three years and I’m still happily married. You’ve got to remember this,'” wrote Michelle. “‘Anyone can iron Jim Bob’s shirt, anybody can make lunch for him. He can get his lunch somewhere else. But you are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy. You’re it. You’re the only one.'” She continues, recapping her friend’s words, “‘So don’t forget that, that he needs you.'”
So when you are exhausted at the end of the day, maybe from dealing with little ones, and you fall into bed so exhausted at night, don’t forget about him because you and he are the only ones who can have that time together. No one else in the world can meet that need.'” So, even if you’re not in the mood yourself, do it anyway. Be a good wife. Do it for your husband. Just like Shakira says, whenever, wherever. And it’s not just a matter of being there for him like some sort of receptacle, simply to meet his desires, you gotta smile honey! “Be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big and pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ‘I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.'”
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We’re not saying sex isn’t great for a marriage because it is. But it has to be a two-way street. And we think that we can all agree that there are times we don’t want to do it and our partner does and we do it. But a partner should also take notice that you’re not in the mood and realize the sex isn’t going to be that good when one of you is there half-heartedly.
But does anyone wonder if “joyfully available” mean “totally faking it?” Hmm, wonder if Jim Bob notices. Or cares.
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