Scheduled C-sections to avoid a vaginal childbirth happen, sure, but for many, it isn’t always a choice. Whether it’s for the mom’s well-being or the baby’s, it’s often an emergency surgery, major abdominal surgery, that needs to happen. Or else. And the recovery time is a whole different beast, which varies from weeks to months, sometimes longer. But despite all that, there are people who still believe that moms who deliver a child via C-section instead of vaginally are too posh to push, and are taking the easy way out.
New mom Raye Lee isn’t taking that attitude lying down. She recently gave birth to her first child, and took to Facebook to describe her labour experience. And let’s just say, there was nothing easy about it.
Along with photos of her scars showing what she — and millions of other women — has to physically recover from, her message to judgy moms everywhere hopefully brings awareness to the fact that for many women, a C-section is their only option.
For a first-time mom, Lee’s story is incredible. Thirty-eight hours of labour before her baby went into distress because every contraction was stopping his heart? Heart-wrenching. How she describes the excruciating pain, whether from the surgery itself or the recovery after, is brutally and frighteningly honest. She perfectly conveys what many women before her have endured and what many women after her will. Going from happy and excited to in shock and pain and fear at knowing that your birth plan has just gone down the toilet, and you’re now in a life-or-death situation is anything but “super easy peasy.”
Hopefully this is the wake-up call people need. Lee, and every other mom out there like her, needs to be applauded for their strength. The fact that she would “go through this every single day just to make sure I am able to see his smiling face” is proof that moms are bad-asses who will battle and tough anything out for their babies. It doesn’t matter how the baby comes out, moms do whatever it takes and go through whatever they have to to get baby out safely. That’s the priority — however it happens.