It seems like everywhere we turn, we’re faced with a new, old or updated story about a man preying on those under him, wielding his power in an effort to harass, abuse or assault another. And while it may be getting tougher and tougher to digest, there is no question, the subject — no matter how uncomfortable — absolutely needs to be talked about, constantly and consistently, for there to be any hope for change.
As more and more accusers come out against men in power positions — Donald Trump, Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey, Brett Ratner, Russell Simmons, Dustin Hoffman, Bryan Singer, Mario Batali, just to name a gross few — filmmaker Morgan Spurlock has come out in an open letter, admitting to sexual harassment, rampant infidelity and detailing a “one night stand” that resulted in a rape accusation.
I am Part of the Problem
— Morgan Spurlock (@MorganSpurlock) December 14, 2017
“As I sit around watching hero after hero, man after man, fall at the realization of their past indiscretions, I don’t sit by and wonder “who will be next?” I wonder, “when will they come for me?”
This. How many men are freaking out, wondering when their time will come? Wondering who’s going to accuse them of some gross misconduct they thought they were totally justified in doing? How many rapists, predators and harassers are out there — be it in the entertainment industry, politics, or in an office or restaurant or any place of work in which someone is considered a higher-up — waiting for their name to be uttered by a person they hurt in some way?
Cynics will chalk Spurlock’s admission up to self-serving crap, and say his motives are simply to beat an accusation or lawsuit to the punch. Others might give him credit for wanting to try to be a “part of the solution,” and for recognizing what he’s done and how he hopes to change. But is that where we are now? Giving credit to abusers for coming clean? For owning up to their wrongdoings?
We suppose there’s no easy answer. It would be good if more men came forward of their own accord but in an ideal world, what would be better is if men would just stop doing this sh*t.
As for Spurlock, the details of his “one night stand” were chilling yet familiar–because how many men have thought it was OK to keep going, even though a woman said no? And “light bright?” So damn haunting. Spurlock repeats that he is “part of the problem,” but it’s clear from his Twitter feed that he hasn’t quite learned from his mistakes, as he is only retweeting positive messages from people lauding him for his “bravery” and “courage.”
He might want to take another look at the tweets coming his way before he gets too self-congratulatory.
I have a lot of mixed feelings reading this but I think it is brave to come forward honestly and maybe we need more of this dialogue without attacking/judging if we want to change as society
— Dorit Murciano (@doritnyc) December 14, 2017
How is it brave? He was just afraid it was going to come out and he wanted to beat the story. He’s still a bad person. He wasn’t making accidents when he harassed his assistant or cheating on his significant others. He was making conscious, selfish decisions. Let’s not praise him
— Ryan Fleming (@SuperSkeptik) December 14, 2017
Honesty is the first step… To me it reads true.But I’m a man
— John Edginton (@JohnEdginton1) December 14, 2017
I started to tweet about Morgan Spurlock’s piece on how he didn’t think he really raped the crying girl who said no, but then my laptop asked me not to throw it out the window – Me
— Mikki Kendall (@Karnythia) December 14, 2017
What Morgan Spurlock did is not brave, it’s just something he had to say period. Stop praising white males for doing what they have to do, specially for admitting to sexual misconduct. There is nothing right about his past behavior and he should not be applauded.
— n (@colln99) December 14, 2017
I didn’t hear him asking for absolution. And it seems to me that beating possible former victims to the punch wouldn’t be a smart move. Maybe the guy’s trying to do the right thing. I hope so.
— Kelley (@Kaypeigh) December 14, 2017
To me it reads like hoping to get excused from consequences. I’m sure he said he was sorry everytime he got caught cheating. And went on to cheat some more.
Be interest to see how it plays out.
— LJ Breedlove (@LJBreedlove) December 14, 2017
Unbelievable courage to speak up, but you didn’t say anything about seeking help. You’re obviously an addict. Also, really hope you talked to the ppl you abused (family included) before posting this.
— Kimberlee Lenz (@KimberleeLenz) December 14, 2017
Morgan Spurlock: Addiction does not cause men to rape and harass women. Stop talking. Stop blaming. Take responsibility and don’t make excuses. And to everyone who’s praising him for being so “brave”: You’re part of the problem. https://t.co/KrAA1005j0
— Erica C. Barnett (@ericacbarnett) December 14, 2017
Saying you’re a part of the problem doesn’t absolve you of your sins. Have you apologized to the people you hurt-especially the wives(!!) to whom you’ve been unfaithful?
Trying to get in front of a story doesn’t make you better than those other men- just makes you more PR savvy.
— Gege (@Pomquat) December 14, 2017