Oh boy, here’s a doozy of a question submitted by a viewer:
“My ex and I haven’t spoken since our breakup a year ago. I’ve remained friends with his inner circle but have avoided attending events that I know he’ll be at because I don’t want him to feel uncomfortable. Recently, his best friend invited me to be a guest at a dinner and I know my ex will be at the table. Should I go?”
I feel like it’s rare to remain friendly with an ex’s “inner circle”. They must really like you, and you them, which is amazing. Friends are amazing. And I think you’re very thoughtful to avoid attending events with them that you know your ex will also be at because that’s super sensitive.
But don’t you think it’s odd that this guy isn’t extending that same courtesy to his best friend? Not only is he inviting you as his date to an event that his best friend will be at but his best friend will also be sitting at the same table as the two of you. This does not sound super sensitive to me, especially coming from a best friend.
Unless your ex has told his best friend that he’s fine with you coming as his BF’s date? Do you think that could’ve happened? Maybe the BF forgot to communicate this bit to you? Maybe you should ask? Also, do you think your ex’s best friend likes you romantically? Do you like him romantically? Would this change anything? Am I over-thinking all of this?
I think my answer to your question is: I HAVE SO MANY OTHER QUESTIONS.
Rest assured, our hosts will chime in with what I predict to be professional (Cynthia), thoughtful (Marci), practical (Mel), and steely-but-true (Lainey) advice on Thursday during our all-talk show.
I’ll just wait right here.