It’s been a year since Patton Oswalt lost his beloved wife, crime writer Michelle McNamara, and while some say time heals all wounds, that would be trite to say about everything. Patton has been brutally honest over the past year about how life’s been for him and their daughter, Alice, as the two carry on without Michelle, and he is as real as it gets. So, naturally, one year after McNamara died, Oswalt took to Facebook with some words about his late wife, and it might be the most heartbreaking post he’s written yet.
“It’s awful, but it’s not fatal.” The man not only knows how to write, but he’s also brilliant at translating his emotions into words. Oswalt probably doesn’t put his feelings out there to provide inspiration, but hopefully he takes some small comfort that people do relate to what he’s saying and feeling. His words truly hit home, for those who know what it’s like to lose a loved one or not, as he conveys every emotion a person grieving would go through.
It’s a little surprising that Patton and Alice didn’t visit her grave, but his reason is beautiful. “Those are for when Alice and I have something exciting to say to her,” he wrote. “No candle lighting or balloon launching. We think of her every day — she’s still so tied into our worlds, in a way that’s encouraging, and energizing. So why light a flame that will die, or release a balloon that will disappear? Michelle’s gone but she wasn’t the kind of soul that disappears or dies out.”
Yes, life goes on but Oswalt doesn’t have to like it. He can be sad and bitter and pissed at the world, with some days better than others and some days still awful. But as Patton continues to celebrate Michelle and their love story, and keeps working on life without her, hopefully those days will be less and less hard.
A beautiful friend
She opened up her heart and let me in… pic.twitter.com/YdqevJ2UiS
— Patton Oswalt (@pattonoswalt) April 21, 2017