We all know that weddings come with a ridiculous amount of stress — no matter what kind of wedding you’re actually planning. Between finding a venue, deciding on the flowers, the food, the officiant, the photographer, the guest list, the table settings and the wedding registry, there are about a million things to consider that’ll occupy your time.
And that’s not even including the bridal shower, engagement party or bachelor and bachelorette parties. By the time you actually go to get hitched, you’re pretty much exhausted (and potentially disconnected from your partner).
Enter the earlymoon, the brand new travel trend that’s been taking the wedding world by storm. According to Conde Nast Traveller, more and more couples are taking their honeymoons before the actual wedding in order to reconnect and relax before the big day.
“I often find with my couples that the wedding date becomes a deadline for perfecting everything in your life, not just your food, flowers and guest lists. Many couples choose to buy a house and move at the same time they’re planning a wedding,” New York wedding planner Amy Shey Jacobs tells the publication. “So, I often plan a mini vacation for them before the wedding to unplug and reconnect.”
Apparently, celebs are getting in on this earlymoon trend too, which could be why it’s becoming a more and more popular option. Pippa Middleton took one to St. Barts before her wedding earlier this year, and DJ Hannah Bronfman took a pre-wedding timeout at a spa in Spain with her fiancé.
“Go away before the invites go out,” advises Jacobs. “Many of the big decisions and stressful moments happen at the two month out mark, when the invites go out. So, if you really want to get away, take a pause on planning before this time. You’ll be recharged and ready to tackle the big decisions when you return.”
We can definitely see the benefit of that, but isn’t that the whole point of the… well, honeymoon? To chill the heck out after the craziness of getting married? After your drunk uncle has made the world’s most inappropriate speech and your divorced parents have dagger-eyed each other’s new significant others? You know, right before that single bridesmaid broke down on the dance floor because she was never going to find her one? Okay, so maybe not all weddings are that bad.
Perhaps people should be doing both: a mini getaway before the wedding and then a bigger jaunt after you’re hitched.
Actually, when it’s put like that, we can totally see why this is a trend that’s beginning to take off. You’re spending all of that money on the big day anyhow, so why not plan in some relaxation while you’re at it? Weddings are supposed to be all about you and your partner, so just enjoy it.
Here’s to the earlymoon, honeymoon and everything in between.