Bridget Jones might have been onto something when she called out smug married people. After all, what’s better than having one steady person to come home to each night? To help take care of you when you’re sick or who doesn’t comment when you’ve gained 10 pounds after an excessive holiday season? Who wouldn’t be smug? Just a little. But as they say, the grass is sometimes greener on the other side.
For married people, sometimes singledom is the one that got away. You can come and go as you please, there’s no need to stop your partying ways, and best of all, there are no young children to look after (or if you have them, hopefully you’re splitting the responsibility). That’s the theme of the new HBO comedy Togetherness, starring Amanda Peet and Melanie Lynskey. The pair play sisters, Tina and Michelle. Older sis Tina is single and “living the life,” while Michelle is hitched with two young kids and not all together sure she’s still into Hubby.
Togetherness debuts Sunday night, but since we’ve had a sneak peak, we can offer you several pros and cons of being married in your 30s that we’ve gleaned from the show.
PRO: All the cuddle time you need.
CON: Sharing a bed. And sheets. And pillows. Every. Single. Night. While he does sleep acrobatics.
PRO: One of you will always be available to make or order dinner.
CON: When you want to go gluten free, Hubby orders a pizza anyway.
PRO: He has to like your friends — no matter what.
CON: You have to let his best friend crash on your couch while he goes through an early midlife crisis.
PRO: You don’t have to question where your next orgasm is coming from.
CON: Thanks to a routine sex life and young kiddies, you’re too tired to care.
PRO: If you opt to stay in and binge watch Game of Thrones, you no longer feel guilty because someone is doing it with you.
CON: He watches ahead while you’re at yoga, then spoils the Red Wedding. Alternatively, you want to watch ahead but it’s worse than cheating if you do.
PRO: Sweatpants. Glorious sweatpants.
CON: You’ve worn yoga pants for so long that when you go to put on your big girl jeans they seem to have somehow shrunk.
PRO: You have someone to share the most mundane but irritating moments of your day with.
CON: You’re going to have to listen to his, too.
PRO: He’ll sometimes get up early with the kids to let you sleep in.
CON: But mostly he acts like a kid himself.
PRO: Two incomes!
CON: Severe judgment when you spent a little too much money on those new fancy sweatpants.
PRO: Even when you’re getting on each other’s last nerves, you love each other anyway.
CON: You totally know how to get on each other’s last nerves.
Togetherness debuts Sunday, Jan. 11 at 9:30 p.m. ET on HBO Canada.