Think of this as a public service announcement. Or a friendly word of advice. Or simply our way of saving you from a potential confrontation with someone who has bottled up her politeness for far too long but finally decided she’s had it and deems you the person she’s going to tell to mind your own business because she can no longer take the question.
You ready? Because here it is:
Stop asking people when they’re going to have kids. Please. We beg of you. We’re pleading. Literally, we’re on our knees here.
Emily Bingham is one of those people who has heard the question before. But after a recent Facebook post, she’ll likely never, ever, ever hear it again.
Sing it, sister! We get it. Well, most of us do. And while we understand some people are going to be offended, um, oh well. Seriously, though, having kids and raising them is a joyous, life-altering experience unlike any other but sometimes the process of creating those little humans isn’t always so filled with joy. So while it may seem like an innocent question to some, it can be incredibly painful for others.
It can be anything from infertility to miscarriages. Or maybe they just found out and don’t want the pregnancy made public yet because it’s so early. Or maybe, clutch those pearls, they actually don’t want kids but will then be faced with a whole other barrage of questions they don’t want to deal with. SO MANY REASONS. But that’s not the point. It’s such an immensely personal thing to inquire about and whether it’s your in-laws, or a nosy co-worker, or an acquaintance, why do they think it’s OK to ask it? It’s mind-boggling. So if there’s one thing to take away from all this, it’s that it’s no one’s business but the couple in question.
Because if and when they are expecting a little bundle of screaming and crying joy and they want you to know, they’ll tell you. We know, right? Such a novel prospect. But keep berating them and you won’t hear anything from them, not even the good news. And you’ll just have to wait and find out in classic movie form — when she turns down a glass of wine and opts for water instead.