Having a daughter is a wonderful thing. Girls are stunning, powerful beings who never cease to amaze, but raising them can be tough. Thanks to all the pressures out there for a girl, to be beautiful, smart, popular, witty, strong and confident, all combined with growing up and dealing with body image issues and puberty and overall awkwardness, it can be rough. Really, really rough.
But now, maybe more than ever, we have to stand by our girls and give them all the love, support and encouragement they need and deserve. It can be difficult, especially when they would rather be with their friends or on their devices, and are more about dishing out eyerolls with sides of sass rather than cuddles, but it has to be done. Parenting is a 24/7, 365 thing and while we might want to throw in the towel during tough times, we can’t. Because that’s love. But if you need a little help, who better to help parents everywhere prepare their daughters for life than Ruth Bader Ginsburg?
The Supreme Court justice has seen it all throughout her epic career that has spanned nearly six decades. A lot of who she is today is because of how she was parented, raised and counselled. So if you want your daughter to be as badass as RBG, why not heed her advice?
Here are just a few pieces of her wisdom to get you started.
If she’s able to fend for herself, she’ll be ready for whatever fortune (or misfortune) is in store for her.
FALL IN LOVE WITH READING
They’ll learn a little (or a lot, depending on their choices), know how to tell a story, and it provides them with simple pleasure and comfort at something that isn’t tech-based.
SEEK OUT SUPPORTIVE TEACHERS
They’re with your girls all day, five days a week so if there’s one, or a handful who are good influences and encouraging, it’s OK for her to latch on to them. They can change your daughter for the better.
TUNE OUT THE BAD STUFF
It was Ginsburg’s mother-in-law who said, “In every good marriage, it helps sometimes to be a little deaf.” And that pearl of wisdom works while growing up too. OK, you hope they don’t ignore you, but like RBG writes, “When a thoughtless of unkind word is spoken, best tune out.” Because engaging will get them nowhere.
KNOW THAT NOTHING COMES EASY
They have to work to make their dreams come true. With a child on the way, Ginsburg could’ve given up going to law school to be a wife and raise their daughter but her father simply said, if she wanted both, “find a way.” And look how that turned out.
FIND THE PERFECT PARTNER
And by “perfect,” we mean “perfect for them,” someone who complements her (and occasionally, compliments her), will love, compromise and communicate, and not feel threatened by her awesomeness. Eventually. WAY down the road. Let’s not rush things, OK?