It’s never a proud moment, but we’ve all been there.
After a week, or a month or, heck, 6 months, you’re on Facebook when a notification comes in. Bing! Your ex is in a relationship.
And then, before you can say, “Do we have any ice cream?” you’re scrolling down his feed like a private eye on the case of her life. You can call it breakup sleuthing, or you can call it Facebook stalking…but you can definitely call it unhealthy.
A new study romantically titled “Facebook Surveillance of Former Romantic Partners: Associations with PostBreakup Recovery and Personal Growth,” published in the journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, suggests that pretty much any Facebook contact with an ex is bad Facebook contact, at least when it comes to emotional healing.
And if you were wondering where your offences fall, the study considers remaining friends and checking their page as surveillance. Sorry.
Researchers looked at 464 participants and concluded that “Facebook surveillance was associated with greater current distress over the breakup, more negative feelings, sexual desire, and longing for the ex-partner and lower personal growth.”
You might be saying, “well, no duh,” and we were too, but it is nice to have science validate our beliefs. And hey, now it’s not just your girlfriends saying you have to stop following him. Science says it’s true, so quit it! Or don’t. It’s up to you. But we’re telling science on you.