It’s been nearly a year since Selma Blair received the news that she has multiple sclerosis. In the ensuing months, she’s been open about her health journey, taking to social media to share what she’s gone through, from struggles to blessings. This time, however, she’s talking about the bravery of her son, Arthur.
“He’s had to endure a lot; he’s seen a lot,” Blair told People, whether it’s watching her fall down stairs or rush to the bathroom if she’s feeling sick. Arthur, however, doesn’t see what his mom going through as weaknesses but, rather, fortitude. “He says, ‘Mommy’s not sick. Mommy’s brave.'” Since her diagnosis and knowing that she’s living with this unpredictable chronic neurological disease, Blair’s main goal is to maintain a schedule built around the eight-year-old. She also added that living well for her son is what keeps her motivated. “This is it. The only life we get,” she explained. “My disease isn’t a tragedy, but I tell myself, ‘You’re going to live in a way that would be an example for yourself and your son.'”
It also helps that Blair and ex-boyfriend Jason Bleick maintain a great co-parenting relationship, thanks, in part, to a “flexible custody arrangement.” Selma also calls Jason a “huge part of Arthur’s life,” adding that “he’s shown up in a big way. I’m really proud of us.” And she really should be. There are some people who, depending on how their split went down, would take total advantage of Selma’s condition, fight for sole custody and make life harder for her. Thankfully that’s not the case for Selma, Jason and Arthur.
The soon-to-be third grader recently told his mom how much he likes her school visits, saying, “‘I love when you come to school because you make the kids laugh and you answer all their questions,'” she recalled, saying she’s more than happy to explain why she “walks and talks funny.”
She added: “I explain what’s happening and that my voice doesn’t hurt, and we have really decent exchanges. I had no idea Arthur was proud of that. I thought, ‘I’m probably an embarrassment,’ but to know I’m not was one of my proudest moments.” Because that’s the goal of every parent — to not be considered a joke by their children or their friends. When it comes to dodgeball, though, it’s no joke.
Blair revealed they play one-sided games, but she doesn’t dodge because of the danger potentially involved, thanks to her reflexes. “Maybe in the future for sure, but I don’t move side to side perfectly, and so I get to just hit him and then he throws it back to me, really chivalrously. And then I get to hit him again, and he thinks it’s amazing.” Um, being able to whip balls at your own kids without them getting upset? Selma’s living the dream.
Selma continues to handle her MS with grace and strength and it’s clear Arthur is following her example. Well done, to both of them.
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I woke from troubling dreams. Drank some water, came to the window to feel the 3 am air on my face. Breathe in. Breathe out. I have pain. My neck. My leg. My back. Breathe in breathe out. I am alive. We are in a change. A shift is happening. I am riding the wave of it. I am comforted by those on this journey with me. there is abundance in the giving. All blessings already are. I like to think not one soul will be lost. I have the most beautiful part of my life right here. I am humbled and I hold it dear. Breathe it in. That is my proof. #breath #love #arthursaintbleick #keepmoving.