There are things you learn in the breakdown of a relationship that you wish you could apply retro-actively. Of course you wish you were a better partner, or that they were a better partner—whatever “better” may mean to you. Maybe you realize you should have been kinder, or maybe you should have put your foot down more often. Either way, the past is the past and you can’t relive it. But you can learn from it. And if you’re generous, you can help others learn from your mistakes. Like the men and women in this video who’ve been there, done that and have lived to tell the tale.
Some key take-aways from the kind, generous and experienced souls who gave their time to share with us?
You need to be happy and to love yourself
No one’s going to do that for you.
You need to be friends
Respect and trust are the foundations of any good relationship. If you don’t like each other, how can you love each other?
You need to work out your issues
Maybe it’s with the help of a therapist, maybe it’s just learning how to fight fair.
You need to keep having sex
Make an effort here. It’ll pay off.
Sure, you might want to seek marriage advice from successfully-marrieds as well, but there’s value in the saying “failure is the best teacher.” Live and learn, friends and lovers, live and learn.