This new research has us feeling unsatisfied — a feeling that us straight women apparently know all too well. According to this study published in Archives of Sexual Behaviour, there’s a huge discrepancy between the number of orgasms that heterosexual women are enjoying versus their hetero male partners.
And not only that, straight women have even fewer orgasms than gay women and men, and even bisexual men. Yup, ladies who have sex with men are getting duped right at the finish line.
In order to determine orgasm frequency and how it differs across demographics, researchers polled 52,000 participants of varying genders and sexual orientations. The results found that 95 per cent of heterosexual men reported always or almost always climaxing during intercourse, with gay men and bisexual men not far behind at 89 and 88 per cent respectively. Gay women also enjoy their fair share with 86 per cent reporting orgasm during sex.
But it seems that when a man is involved in the woman’s equation, the frequency of orgasms drops. Like, drops a lot. Bisexual woman cited a release 66 per cent of the time, and heterosexual women, just a percent below at 65. We’re not pointing any fingers, guys — we know we’re in this together — but what the heck is going on?
According to researchers, one reason is that gay women are better at taking turns when it comes to climaxing, thus increasing their orgasm tally.
“The fact that lesbian women orgasmed more often than heterosexual women indicates that many heterosexual women could experience higher rates of orgasms,” the authors wrote in the paper. We could all use more orgasms, couldn’t we?
The team also investigated what those women enjoying frequent orgasms did to get there. Turns out, if you’re in a hetero relationship there are a whole whack of things you and your partner can do to improve the chance to climax for both of you, including: more oral sex, longer lasting sex, higher relationship satisfaction, asking for what you want in bed, trying new sexual positions, anal stimulation, and expressing love during sex.
On the other hand, maybe this means we should just start shacking up with our straight female friends to fix this problem. It’ll be like a weekly book club. Or maybe we just need to do a better job at communicating our needs and wants in the bedroom with our current partner. Regardless, we’ll let you decide what to do with this newfound information.