So your new partner, or husband, or whoever is kind of bad in bed. It’s rigid and awkward and pretty meh. Sound familiar? BUT, you love them, and so you have sex willingly. And when you’re ready for the jostling to end (maybe you’ve got kids’ lunches to make, or need to blow dry your hair for the party you’re are about to head out the door for), you orgasm. But not a real, body-buzz-inducing orgasm. A fake one. One that, truth be told, you’ve kind of perfected over the years. There’s Hollywood-grade moaning and “oh, yeah, baby-ing.”
Well, a new study has revealed that this scenario is pretty common. Yes, ladies (and gentlemen who are likely curious about the headline, so you clicked and ended up here), some women will fake an orgasm in order to end bad or unwanted sex sooner.
Well, that’s slightly depressing. But we can’t say we’re surprised. We can think of a handful of friends in our circle who’ve confessed to faking it just to get their partner to stop with the mediocre thrusting. It’s not the best approach to ending a sexual encounter, but it works: man thinks he has sexually pleased woman, man has his orgasm, both parties go back to whatever they were doing.
“It appears that faking orgasm is both problematic and helpful at the same time. On one level, faking an orgasm may be a useful strategy as it affords some control over ending a sexual encounter,” said Emily Thomas, one of the researchers from Ryerson University.
But it’s not all bad. Some women polled said that faking their orgasm actually made them more aroused. So there’s that.
Initially, the study was aimed at the topic of consensual sex, but the Canadian researchers ended up discovering that even people in relationships have faked it, just to end the sex they didn’t feel like having.
“Many talked about feigning pleasure in the context of unwanted and unpleasurable sexual experiences. Within these accounts, we were struck by the degree to which women were connecting the practice of faking orgasm to accounts of unwanted sex,” noted Thomas.
Let it be known that only 15 people between the age of 19 – 28 were polled, so the sample size is incredibly limited. Still, women are using that ‘fake O’ as an emergency exit button. How often do you push it?
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