Some women don’t want to have kids. But this isn’t about them. This video’s about women who did want them but were told that it probably wasn’t going to happen.
Women who suffer from fertility issues can sometimes carry a lot of shame. It’s a topic many don’t want to talk about so when people presumptuously ask about starting a family, it can be heartbreaking for those suffering in silence.
But these three women, all of whom learned that kids would be an improbable/impossible thing are dealing with it by talking about it.
For Ana Lydia Ochoa-Monaco, growing up, meeting someone, getting married and having kids was the plan. But various health issues have stood in her way, making trying to get pregnant a rough road. She and her husband made a conscious decision to no longer try and have realized there are more ways to leave a legacy than a biological child.
Growing up, Lynn Chen always knew she wanted to be a mom but later learned that, with no definitive reason, she couldn’t get pregnant. She describes it as “missing out on this club,” a club she wanted to be a part of but couldn’t get in, and admits it “sucks.” But ever since she accepted her reality, her outlook on life has changed.
Lara Parker figured she would eventually have kids because that’s what everyone does, but that all changed when she learned she had endometriosis. She felt like she “couldn’t offer what I needed to offer in order to be someone someone wanted to be with for the long-term,” and with the choice out of her hands she was “seeing the face of the unborn child that I would never have.” Her turning point was when she looked at all the motherly influences in her life and concluded that “you don’t have to give birth to someone to be their mother.”
Motherhood is the dream for many women so to have that taken away without any say in the matter is a devastating blow. But these strong women have proven that life goes on — and it can still be a beautiful thing.