I entered this world as the only child to my single mom, and spent my entire childhood being raised by a total badass who exemplified independent womanhood. When my mom walked me down the aisle on my wedding day, I was proud of all the years I spent watching a woman give her everything, on the good days and the tough days. Now that I’m a mom myself she inspires and encourages me even more. Today she is a badass single grandma to my three young daughters, and she’s rocking every minute of it.
To all the badass single moms out there, I salute you on Mother’s Day, a day that you have more than deserved. In your honour, I present you with 10 special ways that single moms are badasses…
You exemplify the independent woman
Being a single mother means that you have a certain level of independence that mothers with partners don’t have. It’s a level of independence that only a single parent would understand, and it’s inspiring to your kids and everyone watching you. We see you kicking butt at life, and raising your kids as an independent woman.
You encourage others
Your dedication to your children, and all of your hardworking ways, allow you to encourage other mothers to keep going. Whether it’s a mom with a partner, or another mama who can relate to you and your situation, you are encouraging us all to just keep fighting and raising the next generation of world changers.
You empower your children
Your kids are watching you, and when they see how hard you work to provide for them, and how much energy you put into raising them, you empower your own children to keep on fighting for their own dreams and face down challenges. Children of single mothers get the unique experience of watching someone rise above, and in turn they are empowered to do the same.
You work harder than anyone else
Being a single mother is synonymous with working hard, no matter what it is you do. You’re always on duty, and it can be exhausting and draining. Your hard work will pay off, and we see you doing your best every single day.
You are an innovative problem-solver
As a single mom you’re juggling so many things at once, that often you need to get creative and innovative to make things run smoothly. Whether it’s finding last minute childcare, or figuring out how to fix a leaking faucet, you’re always finding innovative and original ways to fix things, and problem solve.
You’re in charge
If you’re raising your kids as a single mom you have the ultimate authority, at least when your kids are under your roof. That comes with its own unique set of challenges, but also includes special rewards too. You get to rule over your own kingdom, and that’s pretty badass.
Your bond with your kids is special
There’s nothing like the bond between a child and a single mother, there’s just something so sweet and special about their relationship. Single mothers have the single adoration of their children, and they get to enjoy extra sweet time with their kids – in turn strengthening the relationship that they have.
You navigate unique relationships
Being a single mom means learning to navigate different and sometimes difficult relationships, whether it’s co-parenting with your ex, introducing step-parents and step-kids into the mix, dating while raising your kids, and keeping in touch with ex in-laws. There are a lot of people, which can make for complicated relationships, but also a beautiful family that works together for the benefit of your own children.
You’re queen of the budget
There’s no denying that kids are expensive, and if you’re a single parent you’re likely stretching a single income as far as possible. Single mothers have a way of stretching that budget as thin as it can go, and still making it all work. You’re queen of figuring it all out, and showing your kids a good time even when money is tight.
You value your community
Single mothers might not have a partner, but that doesn’t mean they’re raising their babies single-handedly. Single mamas understand the value of rallying their community around them, whether it’s connecting with other single parents in the area, reaching out to family, neighbours, and friends for help, or getting plugged in to various community supports within their area. Being a single mom doesn’t mean doing it all alone, and reaching out is badass, too.
Single mama, you’re badass just as you are. Happy Mother’s Day, and I hope that whatever you’re up to on your special day, that you know just how awesome you are.