Unless their kids are perfect (of course, they’re all perfect), every parent can recall at least one torturous time when they’ve been out with their little angel and she’s had a breakdown at a restaurant, or your little guy decides the frozen foods aisle is the perfect place for his latest tantrum. Yeah, grocery shopping can be the worst, to the point where it’s nearly impossible to fill your cart in peace. Because when the tantrum-throwing, screamy, misbehaving kids get going, sometimes there’s no stopping them.
And while some sympathize, others just don’t get it. You know, the ones who stand around and stare. Or glare. The ones who whisper. Or, worse, utter snide remarks loud enough for you to hear. And the judging. Oh, the judging. That’s exactly what Aly Brothers, a single mom of two boys, faced during a recent nightmarish trip to the supermarket. It became so much, too much for her to handle that she turned to Facebook to not only vent but also to impart some words of advice including this picture-perfect intro: “This is motherhood.”
It’s obvious Brothers can handle a lot, but the comments about how young she seemed to have two kids was too much. And it’s understandable that she cried all the way home.
The people who glared and judged? Hell, we’ve all probably been on both sides at one time or another. But knowing what we know now, just how damned hard parenthood can be, that should be the kick in the pants we all need to go from judge and jury to nice human being. We don’t know how bad it’s been or how bad it can get for some parents, or how hard a struggling mom or dad have it. We need to stop judging these so-called imperfect parents who are doing everything to hold it all together.
So, a suggestion: If you see a parent struggling with their unruly kids, maybe offer to lend a hand if they look like they’re ready to rip their hair out or burst into tears. There’s no harm in offering help of saying something nice. We need more support, less judging. It’s that simple.