We’re totally down with the slew of #nomakeup selfies that continue to populate our social feeds. If you feel confident without makeup, that is all kinds of awesome! (Plus, it probably saves a good 10 minutes in the bathroom.) But you know what else is empowering? Choosing to swipe on a few coats of mascara or dab concealer under your eyes because it makes you feel good.
That’s the message artist and performer Sha’Condria “iCon” Sibley sent in a powerfully poignant poem, “In My Skin,” that she performed most recently at the 2016 Women of the World poetry slam. We found ourselves nodding along in agreement with each sentence she spoke.
“When an a$*hole whose opinion you didn’t seek makes a comment about your makeup, pull out your compact mirror and politely ask him or her to turn themselves inside out for you,” she says in her piece.
And she’s totally right. It’s easy for people who look healthy and/or feel comfortable without makeup to preach about going barefaced. But what about everyone else? Some of us have eczema, acne, tired eyes, even. It kind of smacks a bit of “beauty privilege” on the message, when women preach about how great it feels to go au natural. Reality check: not everyone feels comfortable without cosmetics.
Trust us, there are days when we love our completely bare, free-as-the-wind face. But we also really dig our reflection—and the way it makes us feel—when we brush on some bronzer, lengthen our lashes, and quickly conceal an inconvenient pimple.
“Not all of us have the privilege of using hashtag no filter…Some of us wake up dreading the breakout brewing beneath our epidermis,” she says.
So, let’s stop telling us ladies what to do. Unless, of course, it’s telling us to do whatever makes us feel good. That we can get behind.