We know it’s tempting to date the drummer you met at the Arcade Fire concert last week, but you should probably think twice before diving in head first. Creative types are often the most entertaining people in the room, but they come with their own set of issues.
1. If you break up they’ll air your dirty laundry on stage
It’s all sunshine and lollipops while you’re together, but should anything come between you two, be warned: there is at least one nasty song with your name on it on the next record. Or in Paula Patton’s case, an entire album airing your dirty laundry in a horribly misguided attempt to win you back. Either way, it’s not a nice feeling.
2. They’re away a lot
Musicians don’t work a steady 9-5. They’re away a lot – sometimes even months at a time. This is hard on even the strongest relationships, so unless you’ve got unlimited airmiles to meet up with him every few weeks, you might begin to feel resentful and start thinking about moving on to greener, more reliable pastures. You know, like Ryan Gosling.
3. You worry about groupies
If you have trust issues, multiply them by 10 when you’re dating a musician. Not only do you have no way of knowing what happens on the road, you start to create the worst scenarios in your head thanks to all of the movies you’ve watched while home alone.
4. They always go to bed hours after you
Forget ever having breakfast with your rocker boyfriend before noon. Seriously. When someone’s workday typically starts at 10pm or later, it’s incredibly hard to get their body to switch back to a normal schedule between shows. When you start yawning and get up to get into your pjs, he’s finally at his most alert.
5. You’re obligated to go to every show
Not interested in seeing your BF’s band for the fifth time this month? Too bad. Rule #1 of the musician’s girlfriend code is that you go to every show within driving distance, no questions asked. You’ll long for the days when you could easily brush off plans with friends with the old “headache” excuse. He knows you better than that.
6. They’re often broke
We hope you didn’t think you were going to ride this relationship all the way to Louboutin-ville. Sure, he might see a big check here and there, but most of that goes to taxes, and even if he does score a huge record deal there’s no saying that success will last so you’ve got to play it safe in that tiny one bedroom apartment slash recording studio.
7. You might not get along with their band mates
No girlfriend wants to get the unfortunate nickname “Yoko Ono.” You know, the woman credited with breaking up the biggest band of all time. You might think his bandmates are crass jerks, but you’ve got to learn to live with them, which is a lot easier said than done.
8. Band problems become your problems
You know that charming old adage “leave your work at work?” Yeah, that’s not possible when your job involves regular feuds over t-shirt colours with your band mates. You will be expected to take his side, even if you’re incredibly diplomatic and see where the drummer is coming from. Just be thankful that your boyfriend is neither Liam nor Noel Gallagher. Yikes.