Breakups are tough enough, but when there are children involved the situation can be that much more complicated. But it doesn’t have to be, right? If exes can separate their feelings for each other and do what they have to do to ensure the kids continue to feel the love, that’s all that matters. And while a lot of that can get lost during a split, and anger and failure and disappointment often rule, all it takes is one look at the children to know that those feelings need to be let go. That’s often easier said than done, though.
Things can get even more difficult if you and/or your ex start seeing new people. It’s easy to feel like someone’s taking over your life, feeling like you’ve been replaced, or getting jealous because your kid is doing something else with someone who isn’t you. Thing is, this isn’t about you, or any of the adults in the situation. Ultimately it’s about the child’s best interest and what’s best for them. And isn’t the best for them someone who treats them the way you would?
That’s exactly what Brittney Johnson wanted for her daughter, Payton. She and Payton’s dad, Charlie, split in 2012 but that didn’t mean she was going to automatically hate his new girlfriend, Kayla. On the contrary, Brittney welcomed her to the fold with open arms. What more, Brittney paid tribute to Payton’s bonus mom with a post on Facebook, filling it with the kind of words one hopes are used to describe themselves.
While Brittney’s reaction probably isn’t the norm, it really is what all parents should strive to do. Kids pick up on everything and instead of having to deal with drama, all Payton knows is love.
And while Kayla sounds like a dream girlfriend and the perfect role model for a young girl, it’s Brittney’s maturity and absolutely wonderful way of handling it all that is another example her daughter can look up to. Payton’s a lucky girl, having two awesome women in her life (and Dad too, of course!). So much love.