This weeken’s Golden Globes were the unofficial kickoff to the 2020 awards season and were full of heartfelt, socially-conscious and politically-charged acceptance speeches. Directors, agents, producers, co-stars and family were given shout-outs as winners accepted their Globes on stage, but as actress and writer Zoe Kazan pointed out in a tweet on Monday, not one award recipient thanked a very important group of people–childcare providers.
“I mean this with respect: I wish more people who won awards on TV would thank their nannies, babysitters & other childcare providers,” tweeted Kazan, who shares her 16-month daughter with husband and fellow actor Paul Dano. “Paul and I have only been parents for a year & four months and we have employed at least a dozen women over three continents in that time, all of whom have made it possible for us to do our jobs,” she wrote. “This is not to mention our family & friends who have pitched in. The debt is immense.”
The actress’s tweets have now spurred a conversation on social media about the significance of parents thanking the people who help them raise their children and run their households.
I remember a person once asking my boss how she raises twin babies and a three year old…I was sitting right next to her holding a baby, she laughed and said “uh, I have help” I never forgot how ridiculous she thought this rich person at a party was.
— Caitlin Ruppert (@CaitlinRuppert) January 6, 2020
As a nanny (though I’ve never worked for a celebrity), I can’t tell you how much it means to me when a public figure thanks their nanny, and on the flip side how much it irks me when people ask them how they “do it all” and childcare providers are NEVER mentioned.
— Mallory Manning ❄️ (@malallory) January 6, 2020
I want soooo much more visibility for those roles! In EVERYTHING, from speeches to depictions onscreen, etc
— alanna bennett (@AlannaBennett) January 6, 2020
Although actors have slowly became more aware of thanking members of the crew behind the scenes in speeches, there is still a team of childcare providers who make it possible for those in the entertainment industry, including actors, directors, producers and crew members, to be away from their family for days, weeks and sometimes months at a time.
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Some celebrities have pulled back the curtain on the importance of outside childcare in being able to ‘do it all.’ Chrissy Teigen has been honest about the help she and husband John Legend receive from their nannies and chef, giving these important members of their extended family credit on social media and debunking the myth that parents can and should exist without a village. “I hate pretending that we do it on our own,” said Teigen in an October 2019 interview with Vanity Fair. “We have daytime help, nighttime, weekend. I don’t know how my mom did it.”
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As one Twitter user pointed out, Amy Poehler used her speech at the 2011 Time 100 Gala to thank the two women who were helping her raise her sons. “I thought about who influenced me and it was the women who helped me take care of my children,” said Poehler, who shared the names of her two nannies during her speech.
Yes! It meant so much as a working mom to see those caregivers acknowledged by Amy Poehler, here at the Time 100 Gala https://t.co/6p7kSlv7AY
— Kristin Burns (@kburnsphoto) January 6, 2020
The realities of one parent taking on more of the childcare duties so the other person can work was also highlighted by Ryan Gosling when he took home the Golden Globe for Best Actor in a Musical or Comedy for his role in La La Land back in 2017. Gosling thanked his partner Eva Mendes, who stepped away from her career as an actor to stay home with the couple’s children while Gosling continued to work, saying that while he “was singing and dancing and playing piano and having one of the best experiences, [Mendes] was raising our daughter, pregnant with our second and trying to help her brother fight his battle with cancer. If she hadn’t have taken all that on so that I could have this experience, it would surely be someone else up here other than me today.”
— Golden Globe Awards (@goldenglobes) January 9, 2017
With the Critics’ Choice Awards this weekend, followed by the SAG Awards, the BAFTAs and then the Oscars, celebrities will have plenty of opportunity to have an open dialogue about how they’re able to balance their home and work lives with the help of nannies and household staff but it remains to be seen if they will seize it.